TMI Tuesday – Bind ~ Blind ~ Tease

1. Select a kink. You’re a first-time visitor to a dungeon, and you are ‘centre stage’ because a sizeable crowd has gathered to watch you:
a. Writhing from bare-hand spanking
b. Restrained on an X-cross receiving a whipping
c. Dangling in air wrapped in an ornate web of rope
d. Naked on a floor mat with 3 people pleasuring you
I think it’s fairly safe to say that I would clearly need to make four trips to this dungeon so that I could do all four. Or, alternatively I could do all four, one after the other in a single evening. If I really had to choose though, I’d have three people pleasuring me simultaneously. Truth be told, I have actually done all of these in such a venue.

2. If you selected #4 in the last question, tell us how you are pleasured?
It kind of depends on the make-up of the participants, but there would be lots of licking, kissing and caressing involved. If one of the participants was a woman, I’d love to be eating her out, savouring the taste of her cunt as I have both my cunt and my arse stuffed full of cock. If I’m being pleasured by three men, well the solution is pretty obvious. How they decide who gets to fuck which hole, I’ll leave entirely up to them

3. Bind, blind, tease. Write a 50-word story and include those 3 words.
Blind; the cloth over my eyes prevents me from seeing. Motionless; the rope used to bind my wrists and ankles holds me in place, biting my skin. They tease me with anticipation; not knowing who will do what. The tension build, my pulse quickens. And then, at last, they begin…

4. Sex Doll play: The ‘doll’ is the human version of an inflatable sex doll. The ‘doll’ must lie completely still on a bed and let their partner have at it. The partner is free to control the doll’s body and movements, and do what they please. Which will you be–the doll or the doll-master? Why?
Kind of goes without saying that as a submissive, I’d be the “doll” and Master C would be in charge. Again, like the first question, it’s something that we actually do after a fashion. I will be required to be still and silent, and endure whatever Master C chooses to do to me. The sting, of course, is that their are forfeits for each time He deems that I fail. There is also always a reward at the end, however, dependent on how well I have managed to comply.

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TMI Tuesday – Consider Sex

1. Do you consider your sex to be “conventional”? Why or why not?
   What is conventional? Also, what do you mean by “my sex”? Is it the sex I am, or the sex I engage in? If it’s the former, I am cis and female; which, I guess, is pretty conventional. I am, however, also the submissive partner in a D/s relationship and I fuck men and women, so I’m possibly not that “conventional” after all. If it’s the latter, well, Master C and I do what we do. We are the D/s dynamic I referred to above, we are also a poly couple. I am allowed to have casual sexual encounters so long as I accept the consequences of my actions. That is our “convention”. Everybody has their own thing, their own conventions. If our relationship is viewed from a vanilla, cis-hetero-normative, monogamous lens, then it is anything but “conventional”, but it is what works for us.
    
2. Gender Identity – How do you describe yourself? (Mark one answer)
   • Male
   • Female
   • Trans Male/Trans Man
   • Trans Female/Trans Woman
   • Genderqueer/Gender Nonconforming
   • Different Identity

   I’m sure that it surprises no one at all that I describe myself as being a female (and a woman).
    

3. Sexual Orientation – Are you exclusively?
   • Heterosexual
   • Gay
   • Lesbian
   • Bisexual
   • None of the above, specify if you wish

   Is it possible to be exclusively bisexual? Again, anyone who reads this blog knows that I enjoy sex with men and women and that in addition to Master C, I have a regular partner who is a man, “The Other Guy” and a regular partner who is a woman, “The Girl”. Master C and I both belong to a poly “sharing circle” within which I have sex with other men and women (for what it’s worth, Master C, only has sex with women). By “dictionary definition” I am bisexual; but, as I have said many times, I prefer simply to refer to myself as sexual (along with submissive and slut).
    

4. Is understanding the causes and effects, and the formation of gender stereotypes important?
   I think it is. Only by understanding them can you really challenge them and their underlying causes. 

Bonus: Your thoughts on this – “I’m in a committed relationship, and it feels like asking for consent every time we have sex is overkill – is that wrong?”
This feels like one of those “minefield” questions, and I guess everyone will have their own particular take on it. Within the context of my relationship with Master C, we operate under what might be described as a “negotiated implied consent” arrangement. What that means in practice is that we have pretty much agreed that anything goes and is permitted but, that at any point, either of us can withdraw consent to any particular activity. In practice, by way of example, Master C does not need to ask if He can fuck me in the arse, but if I really don’t want to be fucked in the arse, I can make it “off limits”.  On a particular occasion, I might not want my throat to be fucked, but I’m quite happy to suck His cock, so consent for the former is withdrawn, but consent for the latter remains in place and is very happily applied. We have our own particular ways for me to indicate that something is a “no” and, due to the fact I may not always be able to communicate this vocally, this includes non-verbal signals as well.

It’s also worth noting that within the D/s dynamic, I may often ask Master C if I can do something, e.g. “Would Sir like me to suck His cock?” or I might ask Him to do something to me, e.g. “Would my Master like to fuck me in the arse?” or “Would Sir care to eat my cunt?” These are active confirmations of my consent for Master C to do those things to me, but they are also an opportunity for Him to refuse.

All couples will have their own approaches to this, so there is no one size fits all answer that will work for everyone. What is important is that it is understood that consent can be withdrawn by either party, for any act, at any time and for any reason and that if it is, it must always be respected .

TMI Tuesday – On the fly

1. What’s for breakfast?
Well, this morning, it was me. I do like to make sure Master C starts His day well nourished.

2. Three words you don’t want to hear during sex.
“No you don’t…”

3. Stupid shit you shouldn’t do but do anyway. List two.
i. Fucking or giving blow-jobs to random guys in dark alleyways.
ii. Pretty much any of the bratty stuff I do just to feel Master C’s belt on my arse.

4. One thing you love to hate.
Orgasm denial. It feels so great when Master C finally allows me to come, and he torments me so well, but I hate the frustration of just being on the edge and not quite being able to let go. The relief when I finally do is worth it though.

5. Today is a great day for _____ .
Getting my brains well and truly fucked out

TMI Tuesday – Nudie Cuties

1. What are your thoughts on public nudity or skimpy clothing?
Firstly, the clothes I wear are primarily for me to feel comfortable/sexy/warm/daring/<insert other mood here> in and for Master C to enjoy. I will often take guidance from Him, however; if he wants me to be revealing/slutty/reserved/etc., then that’s what I will be. I have absolutely no qualms about being naked in public, whether than be in the context of a gathering of our sharing circle, or in a swingers’ club, in my garden where I could, from certain angles, be observed, standing in front of a hotel window, on a nudist beach. I suspect I might draw the line at walking nude to the shops, but Master C has taken photos of me naked and/or engaging in sex in a number of settings where it would be quite easy for others to observe me in my natural state if they happened to pass by.

2. Which of the following best describes you:
a. Exhibitionist
b. Voyeur
c. Keep nudity and things sexual behind closed doors
I suspect the answer to the previous question more or less answers this. I am a combination of exhibitionist and voyeur. There is a definite thrill about the thought that I might be overseen, but actually knowing that I am being watched, whether that be online, or in person, whether my audience is only Master C or “The Other Guy” or whether it is other members of our sharing circle or, again, other visitors to a swingers’ club, is something that takes things to a completely different level. I do, however, also love to watch others. Watching one of the other women in our circle going down on, or being fucked by Master C gives a wonderfully delicious juxtaposition of emotions.

3. What is the most revealing outfit that you have ever worn in public?
If you don’t count a bikini, which in my case, I generally only ever wear the bottoms, in my student days I used to regularly go clubbing in a short skirt that barely covered my arse and a low cut, cropped top that just about kept my boobs out of public display. Underwear was optional.

4. There are only two types of beaches left in the world–clothing optional and must be clothes-free. Which beach will you visit?
Since both allow me to be naked, either is fine with me. I prefer to be as near to naked as is allowable when I’m on a beach. I find sweaty, sticky, clingy scraps of material to be decidedly uncomfortable so if it is permissible to dispense with their dubious services, I will always choose to do so.

5. You have just gotten out of the shower to find that your towel is hanging outside on the clothesline. Your house is full of guests. Do you:
a. Call out for someone to bring your towel.
b. Use something else to dry yourself.
c. Retrieve your towel as inconspicuously as possible wrapping it around you at the earliest chance.
d. Take advantage of the sunshine and dry yourself au naturale in your backyard.
Largely, I guess, this would depend on the nature of the guests present. Master C has contrived to make this very situation occur, and I simply just walked out into the room in all my clean/dripping wet glory. Option d. is a nice idea, but living where I do, the chances of the weather playing along is somewhat remote.

Bonus: Have you ever skinny dipped or visited a nude beach? Pictures would be awesome!
Frequently. I always look for beaches where I can go nude when I’m abroad. I’ve already said that I don’t like material clinging to me in the heat and there is something wonderful about feeling both the sun, and the sea in contact with every inch that is just so freeing and relaxing. If the beach is suitably remote and/or free from other bathers, it also means other activities can easily be indulged in, so long as you’re careful about the sand.

TMI Tuesday – Do your thing

1. Does your sex life need some fantasy? What kind of fantasy?
Not really. I’m not a big one for fantasy really; I much prefer to actually be engaging in activities than imagining them. Having said that, I will often allow myself to become distracted, thinking about what I’d want Master C, “The Girl” or “The Other Guy” to be doing to me. That’s less fantasy though and more a statement of intent. During lockdown, I did have to rely on imagination/fantasy in respect of my encounters with “The Girl” and “The Other Guy”, but now that things are opening up again, so am I, and those encounters are now happening in person again.

2. What is eroticism for you?
It can be anything really. A steamy scene/story that I’ve read, some flirty/sexy/downright suggestive text messages that I get sent, a picture or scene from a film (doesn’t need to be porn) that just makes me “think”, or simply a smile and a kiss from Master C. For me, it really is just anything that sets my mind along a certain path to start thinking about the next time I’m going to get fucked. Doesn’t take much sometimes.

3. You are invited to a kink party, will you go?
Absolutely; unless, of course, we are the ones hosting it.

4. Your lover has tied your naked body down. What do you want to happen next?
a. You get tickled mercilessly
b. You are covered in whip cream and people lick the cream entirely from your naked body
c. Bind, blind, and tease your erogenous zones with an ice cube, feather, candle wax, tongue, etc.
d. A sex toy is used to penetrate you to orgasm
I’m not ticklish (much to the annoyance of Master C; and believe me, He has done extensive research), and food play really isn’t my thing. Either c. or d. or some combination of both, if I’m lucky, work for me. Really though, when I’m in that situation, I simply accept whatever it is Master C decides He wants to do to me.

5. In your sex life, do you go along with whatever your partner wants and needs or when necessary do you handle things to make sure you have thrilling sex?
Being submissive, there is a large element of letting Master C take the lead and I go along with His desires and needs and I do my utmost to serve Him and meet those needs. That said, I have my own desires, wants and needs, and Master C is insistent that I express them so they can be attended to fully. There are also times when we just go with the flow and we both do what comes naturally in that moment; sometimes Master C taking the initiative and lead, and sometimes I will. Sex shouldn’t be about strict, rigid rules; except, of course, when it is…

Bonus: When is the last time you purchased a sex toy? What did you buy? Was it purchased online or at a store?
As a general rule, responsible for purchasing our kink paraphernalia; the cuffs, clamps, plugs, gags, etc. are almost all bought by Him (although I am allowed to pick out things that I like and He will buy those). In terms of what I last bough myself, it would be the vibrator I bought a few months ago (to replace one that had been worn out). It was bought online due to lockdown. Most of these type of purchases are, not because I’m averse to purchasing them from shops in person, simply that I’d have to travel to Glasgow to buy them and doing it online is much more convenient. That said, out local B&Q is always handy for DIY kink supplies.

TMI Tuesday – Making Waves

1. Are you happy with the number of people you have slept with?
In a way, this ties in very well with my previous post. Let’s not be euphemistic here and call it what it is, i.e. people I’ve fucked. Granted, I have also slept with some of them, but given my penchant for quickies that didn’t even come close to involving a bed; those drunken, late-night knee-tremblers in darkened alleyways, “slept with” seems far too much of a misnomer to me. I fucked them and they fucked me; or at the very least, I sucked them off. With that out of the way, there is also the minor point that I can’t actually tell you how many people I’ve fucked and/or sucked off. I probably haven’t made it into three figures, but I’m definitely up towards the higher end of the two figure range. The crux of the matter is, however, that none of this matters; I enjoy sucking and fucking and I enjoy getting fucked. The number of people I’ve done it with is of absolutely no consequence. I certainly haven’t enjoyed every single sexual encounter I’ve participated in, but I don’t regret any of them. So, in a sense, the answer is “yes”, I’m, happy with it, but really, the truth of the matter is, I’ve enjoyed, and still enjoy fucking; “the number”, even if I could be bothered working out the best approximation I could, would be nothing more than an interesting statistic.

2. Tell us a random fact about yourself.
I play the clarinet.

3. Would you say you have an excessive need for stimulation and are you prone to boredom?
I think I have a fairly normal boredom threshold (whatever “normal” is). Yes, I can get bored on occasion, but I can generally keep myself occupied pretty easily (and it doesn’t always involve fucking or wanking).

4. Do you have a history of promiscuous sexual behaviour or wish you had?
Given my answers to both 1. above, and 5. below, plus the general tone of the content of this blog, does that question really need answering. My tendency towards promiscuity is not so much a “history” as more a case of “current affairs” (pun semi-intended). Granted, over a year of Covid restrictions has definitely meant I’ve had to rein that side of me in. Now that things are able to open up again, hopefully, so am I…

5. How do you cope with a sex drought?
a. masturbation
b. sex droughts don’t bother me
c. try not to think about sex
In all honesty, I can’t think of when I last has a sex drought. Master C and I have a very active sex life, and I also have “The Girl”, “The Other Guy” and members of our “Sharing Circle”, not to mention my randoms (albeit there haven’t been any of these for a while). Before I met Master C, my way of dealing with it would simply have been to have gone out and picked someone up (or allowed myself to be picked up) and fucked them; job done, itch scratched, hopefully enjoyable for both parties.

Bonus: If you were a wave in the ocean would you be rough or calm?
Having lived most of my life on/near the coast, I love the sea in all its moods, from flat calm, to raging storm. The sea has both tranquillity and power. There are times when I would be happy to exist in that calmness, but there are definitely those times when I relate more to the storm driven breakers, crashing on the shore.

TMI Tuesday – It’s All Good

1. What’s the most stressful thing in your life right now
Working in mental health care, the most stressful thing now, as it has been for pretty much the last 15 months, is the Covid pandemic. Now that things are becoming less restrictive, different anxieties and pressures are rising to the surface; people are worried about re-emerging back into the world and being amongst people when the situation is still very uncertain.

2. True or False. The best way to get over an ex is to get under someone new.
I’m not sure that it’s true, per se, but I’ve done it often enough in my past to admit that it was definitely one of the more enjoyable bits of having broken up with someone; and it helped take my mind of things.

3. Is rebound sex empowering or does it leave you feeling lonelier?
See previous answer. I wouldn’t say it empowered particularly. I’ve definitely enjoyed the sex in those situations, but then I enjoy sex full stop and have done whether I’ve been in a relationship or been single. It’s lack of companionship that makes you feel lonely and, while sex and companionship can often be found combined in the same person they are separate things. Sex is simply sex, something that can deepen the bonds between people in a relationship but, ultimately, something to be enjoyed whether you’re in a relationship with the person you’re fucking or not.

4. Would you rather watch porn every night forever or never watch porn again?
I enjoy some porn now and again, but I actually don’t really watch a lot of it. Truth be told, I’d much rather be having sex than watching it on screen and, in terms of watching sex, I’d much rather be right there in the room watching (or being watched). Push comes to shove, if I were unable to ever watch porn again, I wouldn’t miss it all that much.

5. Would you rather go to bed alone forever or share a bed with someone forever?
Definitely the latter. I love snuggling up to and falling asleep beside Master C, and I absolutely love that His body, there, next to mine, is the first thing I feel when I wake up.

Bonus: You must pick one and explain. Would you rather your mum or your ex set up and run your dating apps?
Pretty much, with possibly only one exception, I would let an ex handle this. My exes at least know what my tastes and turn-ons (even the one I wouldn’t want involved) so I think they would probably have a good idea of the type of person I’d like (having been in that category themselves at some point) and the kind of things I need to have a satisfying sex-life as well. As for my mum, well we get on well, and have always been frank and open, but there are some things she really doesn’t need to know or get involved in, and I’m sure she’d be happier if I didn’t involve her either.

TMI Tuesday – Life

1. Do you typically wake up feeling optimistic?
I am generally a positive, “glass half full” type, but, having said that, even a glass that’s half full still has room for more wine it. I’m a lot like that with sex too; no matter how good it is, there’s always plenty more to be had…

2. Do you pursue your passions?
Very much so and, in the context of my relationship with Master C, I am free to follow them and benefit from his support and guidance where that is needed. I am aware however, that my actions will have consequences, and the price of freedom is the need to take responsibility for my actions.

3. If your life was affected by covid19 lockdowns/restrictions how have you pursued your passions during the pandemic?
As for the majority of people, I have definitely had my freedoms impinged upon. It couldn’t be helped and was, I believe, necessary. I’ve had to spend quite a lot of time, living in my head, and it life has required a quite a bit of improvising, and the need to be creative at times.

4. Is there a conversation you need to have with someone but you have avoided? Tell us the basic subject and your relationship to the person.
Simple answer is “no”. The basic premise of the relationship (and D/s dynamic) between Master C and me is that we are open and honest about things and that we express our wants, needs and desires to each other

5. Fill in the blank. When my partner is around I feel _____ .
In a word, “Safe and secure”. OK, yes, I know, that was three words… I am, particularly in my professional life, assured and self reliant. That, however, doesn’t mean that I can do everything on my own or that there are times when I don’t need support and reassurance. This does, however, work both ways; I support Master C just as He supports me, and we rely on each other. There are times, however, when I need that little bit more from Him; when I need Master C to rebuild me. It often seems as if Master C can sense this need in my intuitively, and sometimes I need to make my fragility known. Either way, I am grateful for being my rock in stormy seas.

Bonus:  Are you living in reality or a fabricated fantasy?
That is an interesting question. Where does reality end and fantasy start? Are the lines blurred. Within the context of my reality, it’s true that fantasy plays a very important part. Fantasies allow you to experience things that may not be possible in the real world. They can also give you goals to aim toward. Some fantasies can be made real and acted upon; others stay within the confines of my head. Another aspect of this is that the reality of my actual life, may possibly be someone else’s fantasy; by recounting my experiences, I allow others to live vicariously though me.

Is this the real life?
Is this just fantasy?
Caught in a landslide
No escape from reality

– Queen

TMI Tuesday – Nice ‘n’ Dirty

1. Your first night out after covid19 lock-down and you catch a friend making a drunken pass at your significant other. Which of the following most mirrors your feelings or thoughts?
a. Ignore it, they are drunk off their ass.
b. Alcohol is a truth serum, true feelings come out and this false friend is after my honey.
c. Well, my babe is pretty hot so I can’t blame them for making a move.
d. After a year of lock-down, people are likely to flirt with a lamp-post. It is no big deal.
e. Hmmm, I wonder if this friend is up for a threesome?
I suspect my answer is kind of of a combination of c, d and e. I mean, there’s no denying Master C is as hot as fuck and the things that He can do with His fingers, lips, tongue and cock are pretty damned amazing, so why wouldn’t my friend want some of what I’m getting. There is also a very real element, I think, of the release of “cabin fever” after the last 15 months is probably going to loosen quite a few inhibitions, and we almost have to relearn how to interact socially again. As for e, well, it depends on the friend I guess, but I’ll never knowingly pass up a threesome.

2. True or False. I am so bored with vanilla sex?
False all the way. All sex is great. Kink may add some spice, but vanilla should be enjoyable too. I’ll be honest, much as I enjoy being thrashed, plugged, gagged, bound and clamped, I don’t want that every time. Sometimes I just want to suck Master C’s cock, have Him eat me to a climax or two and then just fuck my brains out; and if that’s in missionary position, then that’s fine as I actually love the closeness and intimacy of it. If vanilla is boring, I suspect you just need to look at expanding your imagination.

3. Is it unreasonable to hope for mind-blowing sex when you have been together for several years?
In my own experience, absolutely not. Master C still turns me into a quivering, sticky, hot mess pretty much every time we fuck. After all our years together, the long familiarity with each other’s bodies and knowing each other’s likes and desires so well, enhances rather than detracts from the experience.

4. Name two things that could doom your current romantic relationship?
I suspect neither is likely, but one (or both) of us preferring one of our other poly partners (whether that be a current partner or a new one in future), or a breakdown in the openness and honesty we have in our relationship (which may well link to the first point). I don’t believe there is any real danger of either, but life is, by it’s very nature, unpredictable.

5. A local sex educator is holding orgasm classes–as in how to give an orgasm. Would you sign up to be a student or be the demonstration model?
The exhibitionist slut in me would definitely be the model. I would absolutely insist that the practical sessions be “hands-on” and “fully interactive”.

Bonus: May 18 is World No Dirty Dishes Day. How will you celebrate?
Well, now that restaurants and pubs are able to serve again, it seems like the perfect excuse to eat out, as it were…

TMI Tuesday – Would you rather…?

Would you rather:

1. Have sex with someone who never showers or someone who never brushes their teeth?
   Definitely the never showers option. After all, just because they never shower doesn’t mean they don’t bathe or wash or have poor personal hygiene, it simply means they don’t shower. Not sure how you can have good dental hygiene without brushing your teeth (flossing alone isn’t going to do it), so that would be a definite no from me.
2. Only have sex in the shower for the rest of your life or only have sex on the floor for the rest of your life?
   I’m not a big fan of shower sex, so this one is easy; the floor wins every time. To be fair, I’ve been fucked on the floor often enough that it doesn’t actually seem like an unreasonable alternative (and since it isn’t explicitly disallowed, cushions/blankets/etc. can always be added to the floor).
3. Cry every time you had sex or burp every time someone kissed you?
   Sex often involves tears for me, especially when Master C is being particularly harsh/firm/strict so, as with the previous answer, it doesn’t seem such a bad option to me.
4. Find out the last person you had sex with was your long lost cousin or that the person you last had sex with was a brutal serial killer?
   Cousin definitely wins this one.

Bonus: Would you rather always say what you are thinking or never be able to speak again?
Since I wouldn’t be able to do my job if I couldn’t talk, nor be able to earn any form of punishment for making bratty remarks, saying what I think is probably the best option (especially given that I’m often thinking about getting fucked, sucking Master C’s cock or coming up with ingenious ways to earn myself a spanking/thrashing).