Casual fucks and infidelities

The prompt for Mindful Moments this month covers the subject of shame. In a way, this post is something of a follow-up to the previous post I submitted to this meme. It is, however, taken from something of an opposing viewpoint; largely on the grounds that, growing up, I was taught that sex was natural, to be enjoyed and it was not something that I should ever fell ashamed about. That is an attitude that, more or less, I have managed to live by and why, as documented in my previous post, I proudly consider myself to be a slut.

A case in point to my unashamedly slutty nature is my attitude towards casual sex. It is something I have always and, still do enjoy, and something that Master C lets me enjoy so long as I am prepared to accept the consequences for my actions and submit to His discipline when I transgress.

Now, when it comes to casual sex, the relationship status of the person I’m fucking has never been a concern of mine. Singles, committeds, engageds, marrieds; I’ve fucked them all with a totally clear conscience. At the end of the day, the reason I indulge in casual sex is that I enjoy having sex. I’m not looking for a relationship, I already have a fully rewarding one with Master C; I’m simply looking for sex. If the person I’m having sex with is already in a relationship, how they justify their actions is up to them; I’m not going to judge them on their unfaithfulness, although I may judge them on how good or bad the sex turns out to be.

As I see it, if some guy would rather spend an hour, or an evening, sticking his cock in my holes rather than those of his partner/girlfriend/wife, then that is wholly and entirely up to them; I don’t need to know about it. I don’t need to know how the spark has gone out of their relationship, I don’t need to know if their partner understands them or not, I definitely don’t need to know how guilty cheating on their partner makes them feel; if that’s the case, why the fuck are you cheating on them. No, all I want is a fuck. That’s all I’m there for. Hopefully it’ll be a good fuck, possibly even a memorable fuck, but if not, if nothing else, at least it was a fuck.

Do I feel any responsibility for leading these people astray? The simple answer is no. It’s not as if I have ever forced anyone to fuck me. OK, so I flirt; I make it known that I’m available, but after that, it’s up to them.

Everyone who has ever cheated on a partner has, at some point, made the decision to cheat on their significant other. They can rationalise and justify it any way they choose, but in the end, the responsibility for deciding to cheat rests with the cheater. As someone who has been cheated on myself, and knows how utterly shite that betrayal feels I do have empathy for those partners, but I feel no shame for my own actions. If they weren’t using me as an outlet for their infidelity, they would almost be using someone else and, may indeed, also be using someone else.

The only exception to this was many years ago, before I met Master C, when I spent several months fucking an ex, while he was cheating on the woman he cheated on me with and ultimately left me for. That was an amazing damaging and fucked up period of my life, and I did feel a degree of shame, both in myself and for myself. It was painful, but it taught me some valuable lessons.

At worst, I am an enabler; I am an outlet for their infidelity, but I am not responsible for it, all they had to do was say “no” to my advances. I can accept refusal with as much grace as I do acceptance. After all, if one prospective partner says “no”, the chances are there will be other potential options.

I realise that this post is sounding preachier than I intended; it’s not meant to be preachy at all. As I said at the beginning, I don’t judge. I accept that other people, regardless of their relationship status, enjoy the thrill of a random, casual sexual encounter as much as I do; and if they choose to enjoy said encounter with me (and I always do my best to make sure they do enjoy it), then that’s really a win-win for me.

In fact, there’s really only one reason for establishing the relationship status of someone I fuck, and that’s because it has an impact on the number of lashes of Master C’s belt that I receive as a result of being unable to control my sluttiness.

The point of all this is that I enjoy sex, and I enjoy having sex with multiple partners. I don’t feel shame about the number of partners, male or female that I’ve fucked, nor do I feel any shame on their behalf for the consequences of them fucking me. As I say above, I have never forced anyone to fuck me, so if there are ramifications for them as a result of them fucking me, that is neither my concern nor in my control. Any regrets on my part are limited to the fact that the fuck I received turned out not to be as enjoyable as I had hoped/thought it would be.

I am a slut. I am shameless. I am me.

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8 thoughts on “Casual fucks and infidelities

  1. David June 9, 2021 / 19:36

    I think I would enjoy thrashing you.

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    • Mòrag NicEanraig June 10, 2021 / 09:04

      I’m very definitely a masochist when it comes to such things, so I hope you have a strong thrashing arm (and a stiff belt) 😉


  2. TheSociologicalMail June 9, 2021 / 19:56

    Interesting. I always think it’s important to respect the position of others, but as long as you are well and in no danger keep doing you!

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    • Mòrag NicEanraig June 10, 2021 / 09:03

      I kind of go on the fact that if they want to fuck me, and I want them to fuck me and am willing to face the consequences of having them fuck me in the form of whatever discipline Master C deems appropriate, then their situation and how they rationalise it (assuming they need to) is their issue. I’m just (hopefully) going to enjoy getting fucked.


  3. gemmi72 June 9, 2021 / 21:32

    I totally agree with your position. Other people’s relationships are their business. If they choose to cheat then they are the one with the issue. The reason for cheating is irrelevant.


    • Mòrag NicEanraig June 10, 2021 / 09:00

      Exactly that. They don’t have to fuck me after all.

      Granted, I don’t work well with monogamy, but my relationship with Master is such where there is a “price” I have to pay for my external sexual encounters, and it’s one I am willing to pay and one that Master C is happy to extract. I’m not going behind His back when I have these encounters.

      Not everyone is fortunate to have such an open and honest relationship however, and I accept that, but if the person I’m fucking is fucking me without the knowledge and consent of their other half, that’s on them, not me.

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  4. dividinguplife June 10, 2021 / 12:51

    I never understood why people go after the person that isn’t their spouse/partner. It does take two, I understand that ….. but the only one you should be concerned with is the one that you’re supposed to be in a monogamous relationship with. Somehow they always seem to escape the wrath.


    • Mòrag NicEanraig June 14, 2021 / 11:04

      I think it depends on where you are coming from. Master C and I are consensually poly/non-mono. We’ve worked out a system that allows us to pursue “other interests” outside of our relationship in a way that works for us. So, for us, having sex with others, so long as we are open and honest about it, isn’t cheating or being unfaithful.

      If you don’t have that openness in your relationship, and if you are going behind your partner’s back and secretly having sex with others, then that is another matter. As I say, however, their motivations are on them, and their concern as they have to live with it. I’m just out to enjoy myself, and if it means I get a sound thrashing from Master C as a result, then that’s even better still.


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