Thoughts on foreplay

Women, we are constantly being told, want/expect/demand* (*delete as appropriate depending on your chosen woman’s magazine) more foreplay. There exists, so it would seem, a direct relationship between our enjoyment of sex and the quality/amount of foreplay we receive. Apparently we cannot have a fulfilling or satisfying sexual experience with out it.

But what, exactly, do these glossy fonts of all knowledge actually mean by foreplay? What counts as enough? Is all foreplay the same? How do we judge its quality? Do we, in fact, actually need it to enjoy sex?

Foreplay can, and does, mean different things to different people. It can also mean different things to the same person depending on their mood and circumstances. I don’t want sex to be the same every time I do it, nor do I want my foreplay to follow some “tried and tested” formula. I’m all for a romantic evening on the sofa; kissing, caressing, slowly being undressed and having Master C lick me to a couple of orgasms before begging Him to fuck me. On the contrary, I enjoy that kind of thing when I’m in that kind of mood (and even the filthiest, submissive slut enjoys a little romance from time to time). But there are times, when all I really want is for Master C (or any guy for that matter) to tell me He wants me, throw me up against a wall, yank my knickers off and fuck my brains out.

Similarly, as a fan of early morning, wake-up sex, sometimes, especially during the week, time is at a premium. I’ll be honest, nothing is more likely to make me want to jump on Master C’s cock more than to wake up, feeling His finger already inside me. We don’t have time for a protracted, leisurely session (well, OK, so weekends are a different matter), so that intruding digit, waking me up, warming me up, is all that’s needed for me to know that we will both be heading to work with smiles on our faces.

Now all this seems a bit one-sided. “What about him?” I hear you cry, “Men enjoy foreplay too, you know.”

It’s true, men do enjoy foreplay. If I’m being honest, foreplay isn’t all about the “stuff” that’s being done to me. I love to turn my partners on; touching them, teasing them, sucking their cocks (assuming I’m having sex with guys). But turning them on, and knowing that I’m turning them on; that I am making them want to fuck me, is still a huge turn on for me too. Sometimes, just sucking a guy’s cock is all that is required as a precursor to a damned good fuck. Knowing how hard I’ve got Him, knowing how much Master C wants to fuck me, is all that is needed for me to want to have Him inside me.

So, anyway, getting back to what turns me on, well, in a word, anticipation. When I’m lying there, blindfolded, restrained, waiting to feel His belt on my arse, you can pretty much count on the fact that my cunt is doing its very own, one-woman impression of the great flood. By the time Master C has finished dealing out whatever punishment my transgression has merited, I am crying out (frequently quite literally on the crying part) for a good fuck. A fuck that tells me I’m still His good little slut, a fuck that demonstrates that, once again, my recalcitrance has been forgiven and my “sins” absolved.

Anticipation also handily leads into my next point; namely that foreplay doesn’t always require the other person to even be physically present. We all have mobile devices of some sort or another nowadays, and sexting can be a wonderfully protracted form of foreplay; a foreplay that can be extended over hours, days, weeks, and possibly longer. The anticipation builds with each reply, each suggestion so that, by the time you are actually in each other’s presence, all that remains is to rip each other’s clothes off, find a suitable surface (horizontal is preferred, but not essential), and fuck.

So, to answer my original question as to what exactly is foreplay; in my opinion, and for what it’s worth, it can be anything from a “Fancy a shag?” to a protracted session of kissing, caressing, sensual massage, and mind blowing oral, with every possibility in between. Its quality can be judged by how much it turns me on and how quickly it makes a mess of my knickers (assuming they haven’t long since been discarded). As for how much is required, If I’m begging someone to have their cock inside me, they’ve probably done enough.

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7 thoughts on “Thoughts on foreplay

  1. May More May 27, 2021 / 17:28

    I do understand what u mean about men liking foreplay and sometimes by giving them that foreplay that is all the foreplay u need yourself lol – great post – often I think foreplay is just overrated but at others it is what I want rather than the PIV sex itself
    May x

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    • Mòrag NicEanraig May 28, 2021 / 09:10

      Thanks May. Again, I think it all largely comes down to mood, and the things that fit the mood we’re in. Sometimes I want lots of drawn out, protracted teasing, with fingers lips and tongue; others I just want to be pushed roughly against a wall/pushed to the floor and taken hard, right there and then. Neither is inherently better, it’s just what’s “right” in that moment.

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  2. Posy Churchgate May 28, 2021 / 18:56

    But turning them on, and knowing that I’m turning them on; that I am making them want to fuck me, is still a huge turn on for me – Absolutely nailed it! That’s true for me. As is your statement that what’s a turn on to 1 person 1 day may not be on another day – and of course we are all different.

    Great post, opinions well expressed and had me nodding my assent.

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    • Mòrag NicEanraig May 29, 2021 / 10:25

      I think we all like to think there are “go tos” and “sure fires” and, I suspect, a lot of the time, those signature moves, positions, and situations will do it for us; just not every single time because our minds and bodies just don’t work like that every time. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, or our partner tries, one of us won’t quite be in the mood, or won’t quite get full satisfaction. So long as we recognise it for what it is, i.e. our “selves” just being contrary, then we just need to accept that this time it’s not quite happening, but there will be other times.

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  3. collaredmichael June 19, 2021 / 11:25

    Great post! I think anticipation is the thing—that build up is really the foreplay! Whether a few texts set the mood. Or whether a couple of dirty phrases—anticipation is started and the body says “yes!” Of course the longer romantic version also works—because it builds anticipation. That’s my thought and I’m sticking to it! lol


    • Mòrag NicEanraig June 19, 2021 / 12:39

      As with so many things, it really all depends on the mood and the circumstances. I love a long, drawn out session in person, but a protracted bout of sexting all day can leave me a wet, sticky mess just gagging to be fucked. There again, a simple “Bend over and brace yourself” is, as I said, often perfectly sufficient.

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  4. albertfirsovmmb November 21, 2021 / 14:20

    Interesting theme, I will take part. I know, that together we can come to a right answer.


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