A woman’s body?


So, it seems I’ve attracted the attention and ire of  the “outrage for hire” brigade. I suspect it was always likely to be a matter of when, rather than if, so at least I’ve got it out of the way.

So what, pray tell, was the reason for incurring their wrath?

Well, it appears, I had the audacity and temerity to say that my body is a woman’s body and, that in doing so, I was being cis-sexist and trans-exclusionary.

My simple, and in eloquent response to that is that they are talking bollocks.

I am, after all, a woman and, if you prefer, a cis-woman. However, in the context of my use of the term “woman’s body”, that “cis” prefix is nothing more than meaningless padding.

Why meaningless?

Simply because the term “woman” in the context that I use it means all women, be they cis, trans, or any other label they prefer to use. The basic fact, and the central core of my point is that anyone who identifies as a woman is a woman. There is nothing exclusionary about that. I use the term “woman” as a shorthand for all women, regardless of their assigned gender at birth, or their reproductive biology. If you accept that definition then, from there, it follows that all women, have women’s bodies and that there is nothing cis-sexist or exclusionary in that either.

In my own personal context, my own “woman’s body” happens to have breasts, a clitoris, a vulva, a vagina, a womb, ovaries, etc. Mine does and, I think it’s reasonable to say, so do the bodies of the majority of women. Yes, some cis-women, as a result of surgery may not have all of those parts, but that doesn’t negate the fact that cis-women are the majority, that this is true. However, not all women are cis-women, and as such, their bodies may (or may not) have penises and testicles. They are, however, in my opinion and mode of belief, still women’s bodies, because they are the bodies of people who identify as women and, therefore, are women.

When I blog, I am generally blogging about sex and the people I have had sex with. Over the 30+ years that I have been sexually active, my partners have all been cis (or at least were presenting as cis when I had sex with them). Again, this isn’t prejudice on my part, nor is it exclusionary, it’s just simply a fact. In that context, when I use the terms man/men or woman/women, in my blog, there is an implicit assumption that I am using the cis variant of those words, but I am not excluding anyone, nor am I being biased in favour or against anyone. I am simply recounting my experiences from my point of view and my assumed point of view of the other participants in the activities I am recounting.

Now, the purpose of this post is not to change anyone’s mind. It was simply to illustrate that people, particularly those of a self-righteous disposition, are often far too quick to assume a negative interpretation of something, without bothering to avail themselves of the actual facts, simply because that snap condemnation fits their narrative. Perhaps these people just need to lash out, and adopting a position of righteous indignation whenever they find something they can take exception to provides them with outlet, or a coping mechanism of sorts. Of course, the could also just be bullying narcissists who get off on attacking people to attract attention to themselves; who can say?

Language is flexible and always evolving, but language without context is merely words; context is everything. Attacking someone’s words without first trying to understand their context or the meaning intended by the person who wrote them is just lazy bias on the part of the reader – it is nothing more than noise. The fact that some people need to take offence simply to validate themselves is a pity, but it reflects more on them than the person they are taking offence at.

10 thoughts on “A woman’s body?

  1. zvt January 23, 2021 / 4:56 pm

    Cl Cl cis
    | |
    C=C
    | |
    H H

    Cl H trans
    | |
    C=C
    | |
    H Cl

    I very much agree with your points regarding “A woman’s body?” It is a bit curious to me how the current use of cis/trans (in this context) came into being. As you may know, it comes from organic chemistry – to refer to compounds with the same chemical formula, but different orientation. “cis” refers to functional groups that are “this side of [the carbon chain];” whereas “trans” refers to “the other side of [the carbon chain].”

    Keep up the good work – very enjoyable blog posts!

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  2. Mòrag January 24, 2021 / 2:40 pm

    My understanding is that it comes from the same place. It’s not 100% accurate, but it serves its purpose.

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  3. Mòrag January 24, 2021 / 6:28 pm

    Thank you May. It seems that there are those whose need for attention is more important to them than the cause they claim to champion.

    Liked by 2 people

  4. Alice King January 26, 2021 / 12:44 am

    This is a very well written and thought out post. Sorry you had to deal with the presumptuous treatment.

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  5. Mòrag January 26, 2021 / 9:40 am

    Thanks Alice. Seems there’s a lot of it going about. Some people just aren’t happy unless they have something to take offence at, and it serves their need to be the centre of attention as well.

    Sadly, it’s just part of human nature that some people take pleasure and get validation by lashing out at others.

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  6. The Silk Cords January 27, 2021 / 4:34 am

    Now following you with my (mostly) adult oriented blog also. 🙂

    First, I’d say I’m surprised by this pathetic attack on you, BUT I saw too much hate on Twitter during my time there to not know how insane people can be. Kudos for keeping relatively cool about it also. THIS redhead would have went off on them, LOL. It’s a shame they’re too ignorant to realize they can’t build up one group by tearing down another.

    As for the why… I ranted about this in the “Silk Chatters” blog. It’s “spiritual materialism”; the ego driven need to feel superior and more enlightened via moral exhibitionism. Ignore them and keep being you. 😉

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  7. Mòrag January 27, 2021 / 9:12 am

    Thank you. I agree, it does just come from a place where the ego needs constant feeding. It’s a sad reflection of us as a species that, so often, we find validation in the pain caused to others, rather than in the good that could be done.

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  8. collaredmichael January 27, 2021 / 11:49 am

    Not much to say except I’m sorry you were attacked. But I suppose all of us are at some point.

    Liked by 2 people

  9. Mòrag January 27, 2021 / 1:03 pm

    Thank you. It happens, sadly, but all we can do is try to shrug it off and move forward.

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