Guidance through discipline


I’ve touched on this many times in this blog, but discipline/punishment is a very important part of the D/s dynamic that exists between Master C and myself. Punishment helps define boundaries; not to confine, but to determine the “price” required to cross those boundaries. As I mentioned in this post, any corrections that Master C administers, are never delivered unilaterally; I am always required to consider my actions and what the “tariff” for any given transgression may be.

Punishments can, of course, take many forms. There are, of course, the obvious forms of corporal punishment: spanking, belting, caning, flogging; all always delivered to my naked arse, each one with it’s own unique form and intensity of pain, each one leaving a different mark on my skin.

Master C’s hand is usually for the most minor infringements; when I’m being particularly bratty or impudent, or when He knows I’m not trying my hardest. His belt, the flogger and the cane are used for more “serious” infringements. In those pre-covid days where such things were possible, a drunken blow-job with a random might earn me several lashes from the belt, fucking more than one random on the same night out might mean the flogger, and getting publicly fucked in the arse at a local dogging site absolutely  called for the cane.

Knowing the level of punishment I can expect, helps me determine the level I am willing to accept for any one act or transgression. In my mind, I know the level of recompense I am likely to have to pay, and this helps shape whether or not the “act” is worth the “cost”.

But punishments aren’t just corporal.

One of Master C’s favourite alternative punishments takes the form of denial. That can be denial of orgasm for me; where he takes His pleasure from me but forbids me to come. Another form of denial is when He fucks me, or requires me to suck His cock, He will deprive me of His cum. Master C knows how much I love to feel Him erupt inside me, He knows how I consider taking His cum in my mouth to be a reward and He knows how much I don’t like it when He chooses to withhold that from me.

Again, in the pre-covid days when we would get together with other members of our “Circle”, punishment could take the form of me having to watch him being attended to by one of the other women or for me to have to “wear” the cum of one or more of the other men (although having a big degradation fetish, this one never really seems like a punishment, but having it done to me then not being allowed to come myself does make this unpleasant).

Finally, there are those times when I overstep the line, I have gone too far in my misbehaviour, I have provoked Him beyond what He is prepared to accept. In these instances, I am subject to the ultimate punishment and banished to the cage. It happens rarely, but the threat is there.

The point, however, of all of these, is not to prevent me from doing things, but for me to respect the fact that my actions have consequences. They are a form of guidance as much as they are of correction; they allow me a degree of freedom to fulfil my needs and desires, while making me consider their worth and urgency. Punishment, for me, is a form of currency; I can have whatever I want, so long as I am willing to pay the appropriate “price” for it and it allows me to decide if the gratification I would receive is worth the price I would pay (while factoring in that the price is very much a part of the overall gratification).

There is one final form of “punishment” that I have still to touch upon.  This one is much more fun (although, again, current circumstances mean that I haven’t been on the receiving end for a while) and is “the punishment fuck“. It’s not really a punishment per se, and is reserved for when I’ve been with “The Girl” or another female partner. It involves nothing more than, after having provided Master C of a full account of what I’ve got up to with the other woman, He gives me a very thorough fucking, usually precluded by a spanking and almost always resulting in my mouth, cunt and arse all being roughly all being fucked by His lovely cock just to “remind me of what I missed”. With the exception of the watching and humiliation, the other punishments are still very much part of life (although I have to be quite creative to earn some of the harsher corporal punishments at the moment), but I do miss the punishment fucks, and I definitely miss the reasons for receiving them.

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14 thoughts on “Guidance through discipline

  1. Kinky Katie January 18, 2021 / 15:27

    I love this concept of being able to have whatever you want as long as you are willing to pay the “price”. A great read – thank you for sharing x

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    • Mòrag January 18, 2021 / 17:04

      Thank you. It works well for us, but I suspect it wouldn’t be for everyone.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. mrelilly January 18, 2021 / 18:39

    Nice little insight thanks. Here’s to freedom safely returning soon.
    lilly

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  3. May More January 18, 2021 / 19:25

    Great post – the degradation is particularly hot! You are a brave thing.
    TY for linking up again
    May x

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    • Mòrag January 19, 2021 / 10:26

      Degradation is very definitely my thing. I don’t know why, and I don’t really care why, but there’s something about that whole humiliation thing that just really “does it” for me.

      As the saying goes, “There’s nowt so queer as folk“, which is why we’re all here writing about our particular kinks, I guess.

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  4. Marie Rebelle January 19, 2021 / 16:45

    I have always loved the way your relationship works, that you have the freedom to do what you want, as long as you pay afterwards. And a punishment fuck? That sounds so good 🙂
    ~ Marie

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    • Mòrag January 19, 2021 / 17:33

      I am rather partial to punishment fucks, and the events that require them. I can’t wait to be able to earn myself one again… 😉

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  5. collaredmichael January 19, 2021 / 22:23

    I admit to liking degradation too…

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  6. Stella January 22, 2021 / 10:44

    I could get on board with this concept of “paying” the price for my transgressions. Degradation isn’t necessarily my thing, but pain and sensation play definitely are. Now, I wonder how I can earn my own punishment fuck. Hmm…

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    • Mòrag January 22, 2021 / 10:51

      It’s something that just works for us. It stemmed from the fact that neither of us were “exclusive” when we first hooked up, and once we became a couple, it seemed a bit pointless enforcing an exclusivity that hadn’t existed previously; so using a D/s dynamic as a context, it evolved to the arrangement we now apply and enjoy.

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    • Mòrag January 31, 2021 / 11:11

      Thank you so much for including my post. 😀

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