A large penis does not a great lover make

I read a quote somewhere recently, it may have been in an article on sex.com, but don’t quote me on that, on the subject of penis size that I rather liked. It went something along the lines of:

Penis size only matters to people who let it matter.

Now, as it happens, I tend to agree with this.

It is, I believe, generally accepted that the average length of an erect penis is in the range of 5½” to 6½”. From the experience of the numerous erect penises that I’ve encountered, this would seem about right, although I admit I don’t actually carry a measuring tape around with me, so I can’t say for certain. What I can say is that from that penile population I have encountered, some have been shorter than average and some have been longer. What I can also state, quite categorically is that the length of penis has made absolutely no difference to how much, or possibly how little, I’ve enjoyed the sex I’ve had with the owner of said penis.

The fact of the matter is I have had penises of all different sizes inside me and I’ve had good sex and bad sex with men irrespective of how well endowed they were.

I’ve said it before, but I think it’s worth repeating, that if I had to choose between size and ability I would choose ability every time. A larger than average penis does not automatically make a man a better lover; and a crap shag from a well hung guy is still a crap shag. The fact that the man in question is generously proportioned tends to make any lack of ability on his part even more disappointing.

And this is the thing, in my experience, and I stress I am only speaking for myself, when I’ve had sex that I’ve really enjoyed, the size of the penis of the guy I was fucking made absolutely no difference to the pleasure I experienced. On the other hand, where the sex was disappointing, there was, perversely, a direct correlation between the level of disappointment I experienced and the size of the guy’s cock. You could say that I actually broke my rules by expecting more from a guy because his cock was bigger, which is, on the face of it, a ridiculous contradiction.

To date, I have never encountered a penis so disproportionately small that I haven’t been able to enjoy having it inside me. Men however, are sensitive about their penises, and actually, for us women, this can be a good thing. Once again,in my experience, men who believe they are under-represented in the penis size department, regardless of whether or not this is actually the case, do tend to try harder to make up for their perceived shortcoming which can actually make them more enjoyable lovers than some of their more well-endowed counterparts.

This isn’t to say large cocked guys can’t be good lovers; they most very certainly can. But I have encountered any number of “larger” men who seemed to think that just being big should be enough to satisfy me, whereas I have found that men who believe they are smaller have a tendency to “compensate” for their “lack” and develop other skill that we women really appreciate.

Of course, what matters most, to me anyway, is ability, coupled with confidence, combined with a genuine desire to make sex as pleasurable for me as it is for them. Fortunately for this slut, she has her slightly larger than averagely endowed Master who revels in my enjoyment every bit as much as His own.


9 thoughts on “A large penis does not a great lover make

  1. JerBear June 17, 2019 / 13:27

    that was an encouraging read for someone who is average in every physical way. thank you.



  2. It's just me. June 17, 2019 / 19:24

    Love this post. I definitely think that men tend to fixate on penis size much more than women do, and I’m definitely just as guilty. Seems that if you’re at least reasonably equipped that you can do just fine with most women you’d encounter.

    My question is: Given the choice between two men of equal skill, but one has a large penis and the other doesn’t, wouldn’t the man with the larger penis offer the most pleasure for the majority of women?


  3. victoriablisseuk June 20, 2019 / 12:07

    The mans penis is not the be all and end all of sex either, there are sooooo many things to do that don’t even need the penis, I don’t know why it’s seen as so integral to sexy times. But definitely agree. size doesn’t matter.


  4. Kayla Lords June 21, 2019 / 00:55

    I agree. When the sex is good, it’s never the size of his penis that made a difference. And yes, disproportionately, the bad sex I’ve had has been with large penises who thought that size equalled automatic satisfaction.


  5. DeviantSuccubus June 22, 2019 / 22:12

    This is such an interesting post! I personally have had similar experiences. I don’t think size matters much either, because the enjoyment I get from sex is so much more than just how full someone makes me feel.


  6. lackadaisicalwhimsy August 1, 2019 / 02:10

    What a perfect way of explaining the reality of how size matters! Thank you for sharing.


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