Casual sex


I think it’s probably safe to say that Master C‘s and my sex-drives are pretty equally matched, so in terms of the question:

How do you cope when your level of sexual desire doesn’t match that of your partner?

I don’t think this has ever been an issue for us. I suspect the fact that we are quite openly poly would mean that we might not notice even if our sex-drives did get out of whack. And “whack” is almost certainly what I’d get if I did anything about it.

I’ve frequently admitted to the fact I’ve had my share of casual sex and, generally, I’ve enjoyed it. Let’s be honest, so long as I am willing to accept the consequences of my actions, it does have number of things going for it.

First there’s the excitement. There’s something exhilarating about that first, will we, won’t we, oh fuck it, just do me moment. Sexual excitement is a powerful and intoxicating thing. It’s an affirmation that we are sexual beings and that someone finds us attractive and wants us, physically. It’s primal, it’s the mating and breeding instinct (even though, in the main, the breeding part isn’t what we’re looking for). It’s the urge for the male to spread his seed far and wide; it’s the need for the woman to find the strongest, fittest potential mate. It’s possibly one of the most ancient urges in us all and that’s what makes it so exciting.

Then there’s the novelty. At its most basic, at the end of the day, sex is simply a means by which the male of the species impregnates the female. But, in reality, it is so much more than that. No two partners are ever the same. How they touch us, how they make us feel, how they bring us to orgasm (or not), their technique, and yes, sometimes their size all add to the experience. Some experiences are good, some not so, but everyone is different.

There are many interactions between men and women, but sex, when it is done right, is the most pleasurable. And as humans, we have an insatiable hunger for new experiences and, since there are so many variables in what makes sex pleasurable, taking our pleasure from multiple partners can seem a very attractive proposition.

As I said, I’ve had casual sex and I’ve enjoyed it too, but it also has it’s disadvantages.

First, while novelty and variety bring excitement, they also bring unfamiliarity. Unless you only ever had sex with someone once (and I’ll admit, I have done that), the first sex you have with someone, however novel, however exciting, is extremely unlikely to be the best sex you have with someone. There’s just no getting away from the fact that the first time you have sex with a new partner, you just don’t know your way around their body. The basics are always broadly similar but it’s the differences, little things that turn us on that are only discovered through familiarity that make the difference between good sex and great sex.

Also, for me anyway, I find the best sex of all comes from there being a deep (emotional as well as physical) connection with the person I’m having sex with. I’m not saying you can’t have a connection with a casual fuckbuddy, but I’ve never experienced one on the same level as the connection I experience with Master C.

The other drawback, again for me at least, is condoms. However, unless you want to play Russian-Roulette with sexually transmitted diseases, when indulging yourself with multiple random partners, they are a necessary evil. Granted, some people don’t use them, that’s up to them and I don’t judge them but, for me, they are an absolute necessity. I will happily dispense with them for the purposes of blow-jobs, but only Master C gets to fuck me without one.

Anyway, again, these are only my views, you are free to agree or disagree as you see fit. At the end of the day, sex is there to be enjoyed, and enjoy it I certainly do.  Casual sex allows me to (hopefully) enjoy the excitement and novelty that I described above, coupled with the fact I know that I will have to endure Master C‘s belt as punishment for my actions.

Having said that, no one knows my body, my tastes, my desires as well as Master C does. No one knows how to turn me on and turn me into an incoherent mess quite like Him. As much as I do enjoy casual sex, I enjoy what Master C gives me so much more. In fact, I’m now definitely looking forward to him getting home from work, so I can serve Him and enjoy His attentions..

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