Sometimes porn annoys me. Actually, a lot of things about porn annoy me; especially the near asthmatic moanings of the female participants. I like to be pretty vocal when I’m on the end of a good seeing-to as much as the next person, but I’m pretty sure I never sound like I’m having a seizure.
One thing that really gets my goat, however, is porn’s depiction of anal sex. Porn, it seems, has decided that:
anal = brutal/violent.
Now, it can be and, if that’s how you want it, great, go for it, but it doesn’t have to be.
My own introduction to anal sex was at the tender age of 18. Believe me, if I wasn’t tender before, I was most certainly decidedly tender afterwards. I was a student, I was at a party and I was drunk. I was also amazingly randy and the guy to whom I was to give my anal virginity to had spent what seemed like an eternity going down on me and had already reduced me to a quivering orgasmic wreck.
I remember quite vividly the way he had slid a finger up my arse as he ate me out. The sensations were like nothing I had ever experienced before (simply because no one had ever done it to me before). It felt so deliciously wrong, so incredibly dirty. I came before he’d got much more than one knuckle deep inside me. When he suggested fucking my arsehole I was like, “fuck yeah, let’s do this!”
It was an odd sensation at first, having something as large as his cock pushed up my back passage but once I’d grown used to the unfamiliar sensations, I really got into it. It’s fair to say that he triggered an addiction in me that is still as strong today as it was back then.
I enjoy getting my arse fucked. It feels wonderfully filthy. It makes me feel like a dirty little slut. It makes me feel like the man fucking my arse is using me. It… Oh look, it doesn’t really matter, I love getting my arse fucked, let’s just leave it at that.
Yes, sometimes I do like my arse to be subjected to a good pounding, in much the same way that I love having my cunt pounded. By the same token though, sometimes I like a long, slow (but firm) arse fuck. I want the man that is fucking me to take his time. I want him to enjoy the tightness of my arse. I know as his climax grows closer, he will probably fuck it harder and faster, but the same thing applies to when he’s fucking my cunt or my throat.
I’m not saying that anal has to be a romantic experience, I’m not even sure having a man stick his cock where the sun doesn’t shine can be romantic, but it can be sensual, it can actually be quite gentle, and it can, when done properly, be an amazingly intense and pleasurable thing to be on the receiving end of.
Porn, however, has decreed that buggery, to all intents and purposes, must hurt, must be done with the minimum of lubrication and must be done in such a way that the recipient will be unable to sit without the aid of an ice pack for at least the next several days.
I think this is a great shame. It gives men, and women, an altogether wrong impression about anal sex. Men get the idea that, unless they are almost raping the arse in question, they are doing it wrong, and women get the message that it has to hurt, lots!
But here’s the thing, just like any other sexual activity, anal doesn’t have to hurt at all. Yes, fine, so the sensations take a little bit of getting used to, but it only needs to hurt as much as you want it to.
One of the most delicious things for me is when Master C grabs a handful of my hair, whispers something like “I’m going to fuck you in the arse you dirty, little slut”, then slowly, but forcefully pushes His cock inch by inch into my back passage. All the time He’ll be telling me what a nasty, filthy little slut I am as His cock sinks in deeper and deeper.
Sometimes Master C will go hard, sometimes He will go slow, but it will always, always feel deliciously filthy. When Master C fucks my arse he is using me, taking His pleasure from me, dominating me; while at the same time I am surrendering utterly to Him, accepting His mastery over me.
So why do I like it so much? It’s a good question and one that I have been asked on numerous occasions.
Well, for a start, it feels amazing. Despite their proximity, being fucked in the cunt and being fucked in the arse have completely different sensations. That I guess is down to the fact that the cunt is self lubricating and is designed to have a cock in it, whereas the arse isn’t.
Then there’s the fact that it just seems so amazingly filthy and nasty. Nothing makes me feel more like a dirty little slut than having a cock pounding my back passage. It’s a wonderful feeling of being used, being treated as nothing more than a receptacle for the guy in question’s cock. It’s rough, it can be painful if you haven’t been fully lubed up but it is such a wonderful, dirty feeling.
Finally there’s the fact that it satisfies my deeply submissive side. Allowing myself to be taken in this “degrading” way just feels so good. When Master C fucks my arse I am being used for His pleasure. He is taking me and treating me as His slut. My holes are His to use as He sees fit and when He fucks my arse, Master C is taking his deepest, darkest, basest pleasure from me. He is using me and I am His to be used.
If Master C hurts me when He fucks me, that is His right. If, as described above, He pulls my hair and tells me I am a disgusting, filthy little slut, Master C is confirming my status as something to be used but, and here’s the part my vanilla friends find difficult to get their heads around, for me He is doing so in a way that is both positive and affirming. I truly believe that there is nothing more affirming for me as a submissive than having Master C use me and tell me how much He enjoys using me for his pleasure. When he tells me that my arse is lovely and tight, and how much he enjoys fucking it, it makes me feel good knowing how much pleasure Master C derives from it.
Each of us who enjoy taking it up the arse will have our own reasons for doing so. Some may find a resonance with my reasons, others will enjoy it for completely different reasons of their own.
I also accept that anal is a no go area for many women simply on the grounds that they don’t fancy it, and I get that; sex, after all is a very personal thing and we are all different. I do, however think it is a shame that there are some people are put off enjoying what, for me at least, is a wonderful experience, simply because porn displays it so unrealistically.